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What did I miss?

Hey everyone.

Did you miss me? It’s been a while (December? Yikes!), but I’m glad to be back. Thought I would offer up a quick update and plans for the future going forward.

First of all, I finished my classes! I’m now a Certified Vet Assistant and my office has been taking full advantage of that. I’ve been trying to shift back into “civilian life” after months of double dipping into both school and work. It was a heavy time, but I managed to get through it! This is good for two reasons: 1) I no longer regularly work/go to class from 8 to 8 three times a week with full schedule on the other days. This will be a massive improvement to my social/sleep schedule as I’ll be able to actually do things beyond work or school work.
2) I’ll be able to get back into my writing!

I’m stretching some old muscles and blow off the dust from a few old projects. I’m starting to feel my creative impulses return and I’m feeling better about the things I create. My day job is one I can easily leave at the office, so I’m going to be able to put more of my time and energy back into creative projects. What does that mean? I’m not sure yet. But the absolute base means that I’ll be trying to get to posting Writing Scribbles!

I’m glad to be back and I’ve had a good long rest to recover from school, but now it’s time to get back to what I want out of life. The exact definition of that is yet to be known, but I’m looking forward to the ride.

A Brief Pause

Hello Everyone! As we come creeping up on the holidays, I’ve decided to take a brief break from the usual monthly fiction posts.

Those closest to me know that I’m currently in classes to get my Veterinary Assistant Certification. This, on top of my regular, full-time work schedule and the normal rush of the holidays has started to take a toll on me.

When I have more energy again, I’ll be coming back. For now? I’m deciding to prioritize my time and maintain some of my energy for other things. I’ll be back to the old routines soon, but these 50+ hour weeks are starting to stack up.

In short, I’ll be back. Thanks for staying and looking forward to what the future holds!

An Intermission

So, a couple of changes will be coming up in the near future. I’ve got some things in the works, so there will be some things changing priority.

This will be the last scheduled “Blog Post” for a while. I feel like I don’t have enough happening with my writing/publishing journey to justify having a super regular post. I get anxious about repeating ideas or reposting old blog posts. This means the first Sunday of the month will no longer be regular posts. When ideas come up, I’ll probably create a blog post, but I’m running out of ideas to keep up with a monthly Non-Fiction post. I’ll continue doing monthly fiction, both as a way to keep the blog active and give myself the motivation to keep writing even when I run out of ideas. I’m hoping that having this be the primary focus of my time outside of work will mean more quality writing to continue providing to you for free.

Secondly, like many other people, I’ll be closing down my Twitter. I no longer use it and it’s frankly not really bringing in a ton of traffic. If you only follow me there, please consider signing up for my newsletter or following my page on Facebook!

Expert Insight

I have recently been doing some job shadowing. I’m looking to find work that is fulfilling and gratifying in a similar way to writing while still allowing time for it. Talking with people I know who are well-versed in their fields has gotten me thinking about one of the most important aspects of researching for writing: Experts.

Whether you’re writing non-fiction that is purely factual or a fantasy just barely clinging to aspects of our reality, having the correct view of things is essential to making your writing more realistic. I keep an active list of people I consider experts in everything. Whether they’re long-time professionals or experienced hobbyists, I like to keep track of what my friends consider themselves experts in. An element of realism is important so the audience of a story feels connected. I have friends who are photographers, veterinarians, horse handlers, gardeners, and crafters of all sorts. If I ever decide to include elements of these in a story, I find it better to research on my own and ask questions of these experts in my life.

Shadowing also gives an opportunity to collect important sensory details. All the information in the world is fantastic to bring reality to your writing, but it is equally as crucial to get your reader into the place you’re experiencing. I’ve started keeping a small notebook with me to write down sensory experiences in places I visit. The smell of a horse barn, the sounds of the forest, the feel of soft soil in one’s hands, and the visuals of an active surgery are all fantastic ways to add reality to your writing. Humans are naturally observant, even if we aren’t consciously doing it. Think of somewhere you go every day: your office, your favorite coffee shop, your friend’s house. What do you see when you think of it? What sounds do you associate with it? Any smells that come to mind? Imagine that level of detail in your writing, not just creating a visual snapshot, but adding more realism to the reality you created.

Try writing a description of a room that you’re in without being there (using as many of your senses as possible). Read your description later. What did you include? What did you leave out? Rewrite it again and revisit it in a month. When you can start to create a vivid picture of this place, start doing it with other places.

Now, see if you have a friend who you consider an expert. Ask them over for coffee or a drink and ask them about their expertise! People love talking about things they love, so use this as an opportunity to become a mini-expert in a new field! Learn something new and try writing about their day. Now try working it into a narrative! You’ll find that you can create more realistic worlds in arenas you were previously a novice at. It doesn’t have to be technically perfect, but it can appear very real!

New Beginnings

Here we are again! Another year in which we try to find ways to improve ourselves across the spectrum. New skills to learn, new commitments to ourselves, and new beginnings to the year. Sometimes, they see us through to the end of the year; other times, not so much. Either way, I think it’s healthy to look back on the year and try to figure out where we can use improvement or even just to take stock and see if we’re where we want to be in our lives. The last few years have certainly been full of challenges and changes, but also a lot of things that have improved us (or perhaps are still in the course of improving us). Whatever the circumstances, I always like to try and put some goals down in order to fully take advantage of the year, especially when it comes to my writing. So, here are my Writer’s Resolutions for 2023:

Write for 1 Hour Every Day: I have, admittedly, slipped a little bit in the past few months. I’ve gone through some pretty drastic changes in my work life and part of me is still recovering from the ricochet of all that. Still, going into 2023, I’m feeling more comfortable about that situation and I’m ready to start committing my time more intentionally. I want to get back to writing at the same interval every day. My old schedule doesn’t quite fit with my new routine, but I’m trying to carve out time to work on my writing more diligently and keep that consistent every day (the easiest way to form a habit is repetition). I want to make that time sacred and keep to it as much as I would to any work schedule.

Submit Once A Week: The easiest way to win at poker is when you’re holding all the cards. Granted, that’s not how poker is supposed to be played, but the metaphor stands. I want to regularly and diligently query my novel and submit my short fiction to magazines, etc. I blame this falling off on a number of factors, but won’t go into that. The point is, I need to do more to get my work seen and read if I want it to go anywhere. So I want to submit more of what I write rather than let it simmer in my hard drive while running off of hope. You can only win if you play.

Find a Writing Group: This one is one I should have done a while ago, but with the state of things when I moved back, it got more and more difficult to make that happen. I would like to find a group of individuals who also write. This would be partly to talk shop, but also to share victories and commiserate on the challenges. Writing classes and workshops are great to work on your craft, but there’s the emotional aspect of things that a lot of non-writers don’t fully appreciate. Having that built-in support network of people who are also working on telling stories would be a tremendous help to getting that social aspect of writing life back on track.

So, there you have it. Three, solid, actionable goals for 2023. It will require some discipline on my part, but I think there’s a way to make it all come together in the end. More goals will probably come up as the year progresses, but there’s never a bad time to start thinking ahead and getting things in order. Do you have any goals for the coming year?

Arranging Titles

I’ve been considering re-shelving my books recently. Between a few moves, borrowing books and trying to construct a To Read Pile out of the book fort that is becoming my apartment, I’ve wanted to arrange them in a way that would please me and make them more accessable.

In my mind, there are two main obstacles when it comes to book shelving and both of them come from size. The first is oversized books: large in either length or width in a way that makes them difficult to shelve. The second is paperbacks, which are easy to find space for but don’t use all of the space efficiently. Bookshelves are designed for the larger end of books, but don’t always allow the user to optimize the space. So, how do I make all my books fit without losing too many in the process? Personally, I think bookshelves should come with mini-shelf attachments: just enough to hold another row of paperbacks a little above the row in front of it. This would really help the paperback problem to optimize the shelf space without having to double stack and lose the titles behind them. I tend to keep Oversized books on top of shelves with bookends to support them or arrange them in their own section. Dungeons and Dragons Manuals tend to make their own section next to my TV rather than a shelf (any Ikea bookshelf would crumble under the weight).

I like to arrange my books by subject as much as possible. Most of my books are fiction (Sci-Fi and Fantasy, mostly), but I also have books that are on different sciences, writing practices, history and mental health. With all the moves, my shelving recently has been “where’s the space?” and that hasn’t been working for me recently. I’d like to get that to be my main organization system and kind of build from there. Right now, I have a few paperbacks stacked on the shelf over my fireplace, but I want to try and work out something to prop up a second row of paperback for my regular bookshelves to make use of that space. I want to try and put all my nonfiction books together at the very least, but I have to take stock of what I have and what I don’t. With the holidays and my birthday approaching, I want to try and make any room I can for new additions to the collection.

How do you organize your books? Subject? Size? Author Name? Color?

The Sound of Rushing Deadlines

Douglas Adams once said “I love deadlines. I like the whooshing sound they make as they fly by.” This sentiment feels no truer than when you first try to tackle a large project in a designated timeframe. And so, once again, we find ourselves nearly a week into Nanowrimo (or National Novel Writing Month, for those who aren’t in the know). For many, it’s a first foray into the world of intensive novel writing. For others, it’s a familiar kick in the pants to deal with the project they’ve been putting off doing (present company included). As such, I feel it’s important to discuss how to handle writing deadlines without wanting to pull all your hair out. As the days wind down to the final day of November, 

  1. Small chunks
    50,000 words sounds like a lot because it is! Can you think of 50,000 of anything you have on hand? Maybe you have a massive coin collection, or a hearty storage of raisins, or maybe just a bunch of small, pretty rocks. Regardless, picturing 50,000 of any of these things really puts the number into perspective! It is, after all, the minimum word count for a standard novel (and it’s not National Short Story Writing Month–that’s in May). 2,000 of something, however, is a bit more manageable to picture. 2,000 pennies is more than a handful, but you can still count them out with an end in sight. Making your goal something manageable by the deadline is a much easier–and healthier–way of looking at it. Spread it out into smaller chunks and you’ll feel a little less like you’re drowning in word debt. 
  2. Find a Partner
    Accountability is 9/10ths of the battle! It’s easy to tell yourself that you will catch up soon, but can you look in the eyes of a trusted friend and lie to them the same way? Better yet, you and a friend can have Writing Blocks together! I do these with friends from time to time. Often, we’ll do them with fairly low stakes involved (usually an admission of failure over social media or something similar). Working alone together makes the process feel a bit less isolated when you’re working your way through a particularly challenging writing slog. Furthermore, having someone to work with gives you someone to bounce ideas off of during breaks (or even just talking about what you want to have happen next to think about how to get there). 
  3. Keep a Schedule 
    Know thyself! If you know that coming home from work or school leaves you exhausted and vegetative, find a better time to write. I loved having lunchbreak writing sessions, but I also have an appreciation for the quiet mornings with just my words and a cup of hot tea. Additionally, setting aside time to think about your story can save time when you’re at your manuscript. Everyone knows your best ideas come when you’re not working on a thing, so keep a small notebook and spend some time to think through novel problems (in the shower, commuting, cooking, exercising or anywhere else you can spare a few brain cells to mull over your plot). Then, refer to your notebook during your designated writing time! Spend less time thinking about what you’re going to write and just put it to the page! 
  4. It’s OK to Play Catch Up
    An important thing to remember is that life happens. Doctor’s appointments show up. Work gets overwhelming. Time spent recovering is as valuable as time spent working. All that is to say, it’s OK to fall behind. You can settle in on a day off and really commit to playing some catch up. As daunting as, say 6,000 words may look at first, if you give yourself a good block of time to work it out, you can get into the grove and tackle it all at once. Your small chunks might not be the smallest at times, but if you can put aside a day to work on it, you’ll get there in no time. You don’t want to save it all for the last minute, but things pop up in life. 
  5. You’re Allowed to Change Deadlines
    OK, this is really only true if you have the luxury of setting your own deadlines, but sometimes you need to extend deadlines. With Nanowrimo especially, goals change. Maybe your 50,000 word story is gonna need to be 60,000…or 100,000! 50,000 words in 30 days is really just the first goal. It can be–and is–a flexible thing that changes as time goes on. Don’t restrain yourself to just 50,000 words or just 30 days if you think you can improve with more words and more time! The challenge isn’t set in stone. 

Nanowrimo is often a great kick in the pants for starting (or finishing) a project you’ve had rattling around in your brain for a while. If it’s your first, third, or five hundredth time trying to hit a big deadline like this, it’s meant to be for fun! Write your story as best you can and when you do, prepare yourself for NanoWriMoEdYe (National Novel Writing Month Editing Year (or years)). 

The Reading Nook

Every reader dreams of having a big, extravagant library: tall oak shelves, high-backed chairs, a crackling fireplace, and an impenetrable wall of books! But, some of us have…simpler budgets.
Whether you’re living in the library of your dreams or a small apartment, having a special reading nook is a great addition to any space. I’ve been slowly working to convert my balcony into a reading nook (though I will certainly have to reassess these plans when it starts to snow). I find that very few of my neighbors are out on their balconies with any regularity, so I enjoy going out there with my dinner for the evening and enjoying some time away from the perpetual screens that I find myself glued to all day. When I can catch it, I’ll go out and watch a nice thunderstorm rumble from the protected alcove. And, of course, when the weather is clear and there’s a nice breeze, there is nothing that quite compares with going outside with a good book.
The ambient sounds are good background for whatever I happen to be reading and it’s a nice mostly private space for me to relax with a book. I’ll go out with a cup of tea and a light snack to enjoy the cool mornings or evenings and unwind a bit before or after a long day. And on my days off, the balcony becomes a nice little outdoor reading nook.
A good reading nook should have adequate light, a comfortable seat, a nice temperature, and–naturally–something to read. It can be just about anywhere, but I recommend keeping it a bit separate from your sleeping space or anywhere with a lot of traffic in your house. If you can surround yourself with books? That’s great. If you can only bring out one book when you’re reading it? That’s also great! There’s no right or wrong way to have a reading nook (though we all dream of the dramatic ride on the library ladder). In the end, a reading nook is about making a comfortable space where you can enjoy a good story and let the outside world stay outside (or more outside, depending on your location).
Do you have a reading nook? What goes into your perfect reading spot?

The Joy of Tabletop Games

I’m suffering from a bit of a mental burnout for a few reasons, so this post is gonna be a bit shorter than usual.

But, we just wrapped up a game of Monster of the Week in a group I’ve been playing with for about 6 months and I just wanted to reiterate my absolute delight at playing Tabletop RPGs.

I’ve no doubt talked about this before, but I just love story-driven games. Whether it’s decided by dice or a video game, I love stories that are gamified in some way. I am one of those people who enjoys running a game as much as they enjoy playing in other people’s games! I think that RPGs give storytellers a lot of very powerful tools.

You want to get better at worldbuilding? Give your players a set space and they’ll push up against the glass asking “What’s that out there?” and then you have to come up with something. I’ve encountered this scenario a few times in various games and it’s led to some fantastic adventures all from one player seeing something and wanting to poke it. You can build an entire continent of adventure and then have to shift all your adventures to a different location because those pesky players keep finding something more interesting elsewhere. And they ask questions that you need to come up with answers to–usually on the spot. It makes you a more flexible storyteller and makes you more aware of the places your readers are going to look to poke holes in.

Want to get experience with tone and mood? You quickly realize how different the words you use when describing an evil dragon’s lair shifts to the comfortable inn where everyone hangs their hat. I’ve been at tables where everyone collectively holds their breath, just waiting for the next words out of the DMs mouth. That’s tension. Seeing a player care about characters in a moment of crisis can be so heartbreaking you’d swear they were worried about real people.

Speaking of characters, running a tabletop game will have you thinking of characters on the fly that you want to explore more because you keep peeling back layers. One guard could very quickly turn into a group favorite (sometimes even going along for the ride) by the few characterizations you give them. You learn how to quickly make people enjoy (or despise) the characters you want them to, not by telling them, but by showing them. It can be so rewarding to see characters learn to trust NPCs or see a PC’s relationship with another PC change as they adventure together. You learn what really makes people tick, especially when you ask your players what their characters feel in the moment.

Story is such a powerful tool for games. It gives your players a mission, a goal, a reason to get out of their sleepy hamlets and go fight a dragon. But for someone who is obsessed with story, it is a lesson in committing to the moment and resisting the urge to make it perfect. An NPC’s name will never change–especially if it makes everyone burst out laughing. You learn to let go and have fun. You learn that it doesn’t need to be perfect on the first draft. It just has to be there.

Editing is a different beast, of course, but we all have our dragons to slay.

The Mini-Writing Retreat

For the last few months, I’ve been trying to think of ways to go on a writing retreat. It sounds quite appealing: arrive at a picturesque location, enjoy some shop talk with other storytellers, maybe hear an inspiring lecture, then buckle down with some well-deserved writing time! Whether it’s three days, a week, or more, the prospect of being in a self-imposed creative exile certainly sounds like the path of a true artist. Sadly, that’s not always available. Even three days is a long time when you don’t have the resources. Even if you can sacrifice a whole weekend for a writing retreat, you still might feel compelled to do errands, not to mention that you’d have to be able to easily seclude yourself from the day-to-day if you can’t afford to physically distance yourself from the distractions you love. These past few weekends, I started doing Mini-Writing Retreats. While the romantic notion of going away for weeks at a time locked in the struggles of creating is not feasible for me at the moment, I can usually find an open day in my weekly schedule. So, I’ve started committing myself to my writing time again. If you’re interested in creating a Mini-Writing Retreat for yourself, here’s how mine usually goes down.  

Before: The days before I like to take care of things like food shopping, cleaning, and other little chores that might distract me. If I have the time to make a few meals I’ll do that and make sure the dishwasher is empty. Nothing throws off your rhythm like the temptation of something you “have to get done.” Plan out your meals and a couple of snacks so you don’t drift over to the fridge every five minutes to browse (and if you’re like me, grab something sweet to look forward to at the end of the day). Prepare to go social media dark for the day of, to ensure that all your distractions are limited, if not completely gone! 

Day of:
5:30- Wake up. I know some of you are already rolling your eyes, but trust me. The silence of the very early morning is the best time to get in the mindset. Make yourself a pot of tea or coffee, make some breakfast (not just cereal), and enjoy a bit of relaxation before the retreat truly begins.  

6:00-8:00- Writing. Recently, I’ve been doing a lot of editing, but commit some time to your work in progress. Actual work, not just mood boards or Spotify playlists. Put on some meditative music or something else instrumental to help set the writing mood if that helps.  

8:00-9:30- Break and Walk. I like to get some steps in and let my brain work out any story problems I might encounter in those first hours’ worth of work. There’s a trail near my apartment that takes a little over an hour to make a loop of, so I’ll do that followed by a shower and getting dressed in real clothes (sweatpants are only acceptable for so long, even if you don’t plan to leave the house).  

9:30-1:00 Writing. Get back to it! This is why you’re here!  

1:00-2:00 Lunch. Break out one of those premade meals and sit with it away from your writing space. Let your mind relax a bit and give yourself a proper lunch break. Some light reading is suggested or even a quick writing lecture on YouTube to further inspire you. Set a timer, though. Can’t fall too far down the black hole. 

2:00-5:00 Writing, writing, writing! 

5:00-5:30 dinner. Pop out another pre-made meal and give yourself a quick dinner break to mull over your last few story problems.  

5:30-7:00 Last Writing Sprint. Wrap up whatever you’re working on.  

I usually like to wind down afterward with a nice, sweet treat and a movie. After all, you just worked a full day!  Congratulate yourself on an excellent writing retreat and start thinking about when you’re gonna do your next!  Have you ever given yourself a Mini-Writing Retreat? Have you ever been on a professionally hosted writing retreat?  

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